It's all in what you tell yourself. Before a chior performance, a test, or a speech. Telling yourself i can't do this only implants that thought into your brain causing fear. If you just don't think about it and just do it...it gets done.
and always remember that appreciation goes both ways, it's not just up to one person to continually fluff the other person's ego.
Doubt, Dreams and Failure.
"Sometimes the people around you won't understand your journey. They don't need to, it's not for them."