Leadership is about helping and serving others. Empowering and bringing out the best in them. Positively influencing the lives of others is a key component of leadership. If you are not ready to do this, you are not ready to lead.
All too often we believe that the problem is us, when nothing could be farther from the truth. Just as the flower fails to bloom in an unfavorable environment, so to do we. Change your environment and change your life.