Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame you for "having feelings." Abusive people do this
"Negative people gravitate towards people who give them a reaction. This gives them a little light in the darkness of their angry, lonely world". i believe this to be true. i recognize that not only do other people do it, but i have as well.
There were times I took a stand, and my mind was screaming: "Ron, WTF are you doing!" Then my soul/spirit replied: "STFU! Time to Rock & ROLL!"