if 'keeping her' is the only reason you treat a woman right, it doesn't count imo. It's like being nice to somebody just to get in their pants. You should treat women (and men also) right because they are people
Love that my guy is such a gentleman! A gentleman will open doors, pull out chairs, and carry her bags. Not because she's helpless or unable, but because he wants to show her that she is valuable and worthy of respect.